Where do you first turn when you face storms that threaten you?  To whom do you run for comfort, solace, advice?  Some run to their best friend; someone that they can commiserate with; someone who will take up their cause and uphold their grievance.  For instance, a married woman whose marriage is failing may turn to another woman, and together they can rage against that “horrible man” or vice versa.  This strategy may ease the aching sense of aloneness for the short term, but it is no solution to the real problem.